Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon.

Philippians 4:5

How considerate are you? Are you known for putting careful thought into the needs and feelings of those around you? It’s important to God that we become known for being considerate and loving; a thoughtless and rude Christian will have a difficult time inspiring others to get to know God.

One of the ways God will help us become considerate is through dating. Dating is not just about impressing that special someone but also about becoming a considerate and respectful person. How considerate are you even when you are not super “into” the person you’re on a date with?

One of the best ways to become considerate is to start thinking about how you act even before the date begins. How do you set up dates? How well do you communicate your plans? Single guys, read below for three tips to develop the perfect date set-up:

1. Don’t set up a date over text message

Or e-mail, or Facebook message, or twitter, or Instagram. We may use social media for a lot of things, but don’t use it to set up a date. It’s impersonal, and women will take this to mean they are not important enough for you to pick up the phone.

Call her or talk to her face-to-face, even if you are nervous out of your mind and you stumble over your words.Most women will appreciate the time/effort/courage you put into talking to us, no matter how it comes out.

2. Ask early

If at all possible, ask women on dates at least a week ahead of time. When you do this, you show that you’re considering life and schedule. You will also have plenty of time to plan your date so you don’t feel too stressed.

But that being said, if you’re in a pinch and you have less than a week – ask anyway. Just add a little humility and apologize for the short notice -you’ll still show that you’re considering and respectful of her schedule.

3. Communicate your plans ahead of time

Don’t wait until Saturday afternoon to text your date that you’ll see her in an hour. Women like to plan ahead, to know how nice to dress, to plan their day and what time they’ll need to be ready. Otherwise, we’ll show up in heels when you’ve planned a frisbee game at the park. Saturdays can be busy days, and women want to be able to plan ahead without having to ask you what the plan is.

Keep your date in the loop at least a couple days before the date about what time you’ll pick her up and what your plans are. She’ll feel relaxed and be able to look forward to hanging out with you.


Amy Query

Amy Query

Amy Query is an editor of BACC Inspire and avid reader. She studied psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and has over a decade of experience in mentoring, counseling and community organizing. Amy makes a mean hamdilla (quesadilla + ham).

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