Trust me. We’ve all made our fair share of dating mistakes. Some more than others. And others more than some. And some (like me) more than all others…But I’m here to tell you that there’s hope!
I’ve been dating an amazing spiritual girl, so I can speak from both sides of the coin: how to mess up in a relationship and how to mess up when you’re single (I consider myself a master of both).
But I wanted others to learn from my mistakes, so I wanted to pass on some dating advice for college students. Here are 6 Dating Tips For Every College Guy:
1. Don’t Freak Out.
If you don’t have a girlfriend, don’t be in a rush. Diversity is good – college is the perfect time to make lots of different kinds of friends and learn how to build real relationships. Be confident in God, he made you. And, be confident in the friendships God is helping you build! Plus, desperation smells like my 7th grade locker room: bad.
“Don’t be afraid; just believe.”
2. Find a Window, Not a Mirror.
Ok, so it’s tempting to choose to date a girl who’s just like you. What really matters is finding a girl who can help you see things differently—that’s a window. When our strengths and weaknesses are different, we can strengthen each other in the areas we’re weak in. . She should also be passionate about the things you value most: God, academics, helping people, etc.
With these things in mind, you will end up pushing each other to be greater, instead of just staring at yourselves in a mirror. The right balance of similarities and differences can help you both be better than you are alone.
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
3. Do Something!
If your world revolves around her, and her world revolves around you, then something big is going to crash and explode… So do something else! Great relationships happen when both people are trying to do something great with their lives, and have a team of other close friends helping them.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
4. Do Something Together!
Don’t date just to for the sake of dating. What are you helping each other with? How are you making her better than she could have been alone? If you’re not helping each other, then dating’s probably not helping…
And Saul’s son Jonathan went to David at Horesh and helped him find strength in God
1 Samuel 23:16
5. Be Yourself… Usually.
Authenticity is the greatest thing you can bring to the table. Just don’t use it as an excuse to be inconsiderate and do whatever you want. Which leads us to the next point…
6. Be Cool.
Be considerate of how you affect her. “Being yourself” doesn’t mean you don’t have anything to work on in the relationship. So be cool. Dress nice on dates. Take showers. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Have fun together. Then you can be the definition of cool, which is making others cool.
Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18